This morning I sent out the following message to my MCCi family (all team members)…….
My wife recently asked what our family traditions are and what we want them to be going forward. It was fun to think back about what each of our family traditions have been, and it was a great discussion that resulted in us making some changes based on what we want to do going forward as our lives have evolved with each other, children, family, and our friends. We also discussed how important it was to have our own personal traditions that focus on self-improvement and being the best we can be as individuals.
As we go into the new year, I wanted to share with you some of the things that are a personal tradition in regards to ending the year and starting a new one. It all revolves around reflection on goal achievement and setting new goals. It is also why I am up at 5AM on a day that we have off as a paid holiday – it is that important, given it is the one tradition that I credit with every significant improvement (and failure) I have made in my life. My overall feeling about the importance around this annual goal setting tradition is best reflected by one of my favorite quotes: “Failing to plan is planning to fail” – Benjamin Franklin. What follows is just a list of things I do around goal setting and self-accountability.
Goal Achievement Reflection
- This is constant throughout the year, but having my list of goals in front of me throughout the year is what keeps me focused.
- I do this one final time at the end of the year, which helps me set new and more powerful goals the following year.
- If I hit all my goals – I did a poor job in setting them. This is my personal take, because goal setting is about real improvement, which is tough unless you are tough on you.
- Write them down! I have mine for each year dating back to 2005.
- Focus on a mixture of professional and personal. Just like life, growth needs to be balanced
- Make them as quantifiable as possible for clear tracking.
- Think through the timing and general steps that must occur in order to achieve goals
- Throughout the year, have a system (calendar, tasks, etc.) that prompts you to focus on the nuggets to get you there.
- Have mentors agree to hold you accountable throughout the year and provide them with a list of your goals. Remember it is on you to schedule the recurring meetings with your mentors, and it is on them to hold you accountable
- Have family/spouse hold you accountable – give them a list too
If you have never done it – the best place to start is to just write your goals down, and make a monthly calendar item to review your goals. Just the act of writing them down and reflecting on them will make you a better person, and the process will get better and better with time. This morning I looked back at my goals from 2005, 2006, etc., and they were a bit humorous in regards to what my goals look like today vs. then. My biggest takeaway was that I failed quite a bit, but the failure came from trying, and each failure was a pivot to a new goal that was actually the right path.
Many of you know how serious I am about this and many of my friends poke fun at me (my best buddy at my rehearsal dinner made a joke that I did not propose to Kristen until I had reviewed her business plan). However, if my sharing this helps just one person – I have done my duty in sharing something that truly works and that can better one’s life tremendously. I will leave you with one fact. I did not come up with this tradition of goal setting on my own. When I was 22, my mentor, friend, and the chairman of our board, Lawton Langford is the one that questioned me about if I have written goals. He asked “do you write your goals down”. I said “I have goals, but I do not really write them down”. He replied – “start writing them down – it will make all the difference in the world”.
I listened and he was right, and therefore I felt compelled to share.